When I Know I’ve Been Cruel

This was first published May 14th, 2021

When I know I’ve done something out of a cruel or vindictive intention, the first thing that happens is I feel a pit in my stomach. A sense of dread washes over me and my inner voice starts up with the shame and self-hatred.

Next, I remember that it is part of a human experience to act out of unkind intentions, and I laugh at the simple mindedness of it.

Then I say “this isn’t what I want to be” and I make the corrections I need to make.

I could not do any of this if I didn’t face transgressions with acceptance and understanding.

Acceptance and understanding of human cruelty do not preclude healthy relationships.

They facilitate them.